No More Excuses

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A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life. – James Allen

Whether it is another person or an inanimate object, we find excuses to explain our choices. I, too often, use the “You only live once” excuse…yes, I said, “YOLO.” I’m not proud of it. Though this may be true, depending on your religious beliefs, it is not a good enough excuse for doing something that gets you off track of your goal.

Somehow we cause ourselves to lose our freedom of choice or action…we enslave ourselves, to ourselves.

Related Reads: Preparedness and Avoidance

Day 5 of Self-Discipline, take responsibility. Creating systems of success and being prepared to make difficult choices is up to the individual.

As James Allen said, sooner or later we discover that we are the master-gardener of our soul, the director of our life. We are in the driver’s seat of our own life, no one else.

We have to take responsibility for the bad decisions but for the good ones too! We all make mistakes, that’s part of being the amazing, choice making, humans that we are. If we own up to the mistakes it will feel that much better when we fix the problem or make the right decision next time. Ideally, we learn from these experiences!

You can blame the external factor of your choice on, the food item you ate that’s not on your diet, the alcoholic drink you told yourself you weren’t going to have, the workout you missed, the ex-boyfriend you weren’t going to text, or the cigarette you weren’t going smoke. But deep down you know it was you. You are the director, the driver, the captain, the master…YOU are in control. Do not enslave yourself.

No more excuses. Be who you want to be and own up to your flaws because once you understand and forgive yourself, you will be unstoppable.

For true success ask yourself these four questions_ Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?

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Preparedness and Avoidance

More often than not, preparing or planning for something will make it more successful.

Spontaneity is a beautiful thing but it is impossible to live every moment without some premeditation.

Dreams, goals, ambitions, objectives, and desires can only become reality if we prepare. A single person can only have so much luck or fortune of being in the “right place at the right time.”

Sometimes we have to bring ourselves to those places on purpose. We should introduce ourselves to people who can lead and mentor us. We have to set aside time to research and learn about our dreams and goals to be able to achieve them.

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Day 4 of Self-Discipline is about creating your systems. Willpower is not about sitting in front of your temptations so that you can deny them. It’s about planning ahead to avoid the temptations in the first place.

Related reads: 18 Quotes About Being Prepared

Examples:

1. If you want to follow a strict diet, you would only buy food that is included in the diet. In my family home we always said, “If we don’t buy it, we won’t eat it!” And honestly, you’ll probably save money too. This takes a little self-control at the grocery store but once you leave that store you’ll feel great. One small victory for your diet!

2. Let’s say you get too distracted by Netflix, there’s been too much binge watching going on…we’ve all been there. This one is easy… CANCEL YOUR SUBSCRIPTION. Avoid the temptation by removing it from the equation. And again, you save a little money. You can always start up the subscription again. Fun fact: Netflix will save your watchlist for a certain amount of time for these kinds of situations. It could be a good way to get you back on track. Once you’ve completed a project or feel like you have extra time for leisure…Netflix can be your reward!

3. I mentioned my hitting the snooze button problem in my post, Modus Operandi. How can I create a system to help break this habit? Well, first I’m going to try to set up my alarm on the opposite side of the room. This prompts me to physically get up to turn off the alarm. Next, I will write myself a note. Perhaps on large paper right in front of my face so that when I wake up it’s the first thing I see. It will say something like, “Hello Gorgeous!” or “Let’s be awesome today!” I will report back my results.

The point here is, we must build our self-discipline. We should create systems of success for our short-term and long-term goals not just rely on our ability to say no. We can use preparedness, avoidance, and rewards instead.

Those “just say no” moments will still arise, but hopefully in creating our own systems, and roadblocks if you will, our self-discipline will be ready for the unplanned moments.

“He who is best prepared can best serve his moment of inspiration.”

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18 Quotes About Being Prepared

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
Benjamin Franklin

“I will prepare and some day my chance will come.”
Abraham Lincoln

“Unfortunately, there seems to be far more opportunity out there than ability…. We should remember that good fortune often happens when opportunity meets with preparation.”  ― Thomas A. Edison

“He who is best prepared can best serve his moment of inspiration.”
Samuel Taylor Coleridge

“If you believe you can accomplish everything by “cramming” at the eleventh hour, by all means, don’t lift a finger now. But you may think twice about beginning to build your ark once it has already started raining”
Max Brooks, The Zombie Survival Guide: Complete Protection from the Living Dead

“Education is the passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today.”  ― Malcolm X 

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“Hope for the best, prepare for the worst”
Chris Bradford, The Ring of Earth

“I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn’t been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn’t have been lucky.”
Oprah Winfrey

“It’s best to have your tools with you. If you don’t, you’re apt to find something you didn’t expect and get discouraged.”
Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

“In all matters, before beginning, a diligent preparation should be made.”
Marcus Tullius Cicero, On Duties

“Success depends upon previous preparation.”
Confucius

“Discipline is critical to proper preparation.”
Ken Marlin

“Preparation is a process.”
Lailah Gifty Akita

“The key is not the will to win… everybody has that. It is the will to prepare to win that is important.” ―Bobby Knight

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“Prepare while others are daydreaming.” ―William Artur Ward

“Doing your preparation in advance and then letting your brain process the information while you sleep helps to cement this information in your memory making it easier to access the next day.” ― Tricia Alach, Release! Guide to Mastering Stress

“Confidence is simply being prepared to take action. It’s not fearing something, but instead tackling it head-on.”― Simon Jenkins, Confidence

“To be prepared is half the victory.” ― Miguel De Cervantes

“Be prepared!” Scar, The Lion King

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Flexing your Willpower Muscles

As humans, we are given a gift that sets us apart from other animals.

Yesterday, I talked about choices and how we should consider our future when making even the smallest decisions.

But we must also acknowledge how amazing it is that we have a choice at all.

Our brains give us the ability to think rationally.

Yes, of course, there are times of danger or threat that we should follow our instincts. But in most situations, we have the privilege to think first.

Can you think of a time when you wish you would have thought something through before acting?

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Day 3 of Self-Discipline – Embracing our humanity while exercising willpower.

Our most common temptations seem to be power, money, sex, food, drugs and the like.

These are all things we come across in life in different fashions. There are obviously times where we’ve earned some of these things and all is well and good. But don’t let your temptations be your quick fix. You may find comfort in satisfying a craving in that moment but how does it help your future?

On the other hand, sometimes these moments aren’t for your comfort but for someone else’s satisfaction. In these moments you have to, again, realize you have been blessed with the ability to choose what is right for you. A choice is something only you can make for yourself.

This enters a whole new realm of self-discipline and self-awareness that we are all too familiar with these days, in the media and possibly in our personal lives.

To those who choose to force decisions upon others, I beg you to fight those primal instincts. You too, believe it or not, have the ability to think rationally. I could rant on here…but just remember that in the long run, if you choose to do wrong, if you succumb to your animal-like urges without a single thought of how this could affect your future or those around you, you are renouncing your humanity.

To those who feel like they have no voice, to those who feel like their self-control was taken from them, and to those who are afraid because they’ve been threatened or because they’re embarrassed, this may feel like a danger moment. This may feel like a fight or flight situation, and that’s okay, but you have also been given the gift of willpower. Deep down, you are an intelligent human being who can choose for themselves what is right and what is wrong in any situation and I hope you are able to find the strength to make your choice to act as necessary.  You are brave and strong. You were born to be the amazing human that you are and you are never, ever alone.

Let us strive to embrace our humanity. And flex those willpower muscles!

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17 Quotes About Self-Discipline

“Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”  — Abraham Joshua Heschel

“‎Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself-and be lenient to everybody else.” — Henry Ward Beecher

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“Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.” — Elbert Hubbard

“Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.” — Clint Eastwood

“Parents teach children discipline for two different, indeed diametrically opposed, reasons: to render the child submissive to them and to make him independent of them. Only a self-disciplined person can be obedient; and only such a person can be autonomous.”  — Thomas Szasz

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“In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves… self-discipline with all of them came first.”  — Harry Truman

“A vital part of the happiness formula is self-discipline. Whoever conquers himself knows deep happiness that fills the heart with joy.”  — Norman Vincent Peale

“Self-discipline is often disguised as short-term pain, which often leads to long-term gains. The mistake many of us make is the need and want for short-term gains (immediate gratification), which often leads to long-term pain.”
— Charles F. Glassman (Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life)

“Self-discipline, the key to eternal life, is doing something that needs to be done whether or not you find it convenient. Self-discipline is usually motivated by our convictions, our internal hopes, and our desires.” — Robert L. Simpson

“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.” — Frank Herbert (Chapterhouse: Dune (Dune Chronicles #6))

“To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality.”  — John Bradshaw (Healing the Shame that Binds You)

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment” — Jim Rohn

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”  — Jim Rohn

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Willpower is what separates us from the animals. It’s the capacity to restrain our impulses, resist temptation – do what’s right and good for us in the long run, not what we want to do right now. It’s central, in fact, to civilization. — Dr. Roy Baumeister, Ph.D.

“Freedom is born of self-discipline. No individual, no nation, can achieve or maintain liberty without self-control. The undisciplined man is a slave to his own weaknesses.”    — Alan Valentine

“We may think there is willpower involved, but more likely change is due to wanting power. Wanting the new addiction more than the old one. Wanting the new me in preference to the person I am now.” — George Sheehan

“Willpower is the key to success. Successful people strive no matter what they feel by applying their will to overcome apathy, doubt or fear.” — Dan Millman

 

 

 

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