Realizing Our Personal Legends

The Soul of the World is nourished by people’s happiness. And also by unhappiness, envy, and jealousy. To realize one’s Personal Legend is a person’s only real obligation. All things are one.

— Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

I am currently reading The Alchemist by Pablo Coelho.

While reading, I was struck by a particular thought. Coelho talks about realizing your Personal Legend.

“… (Personal Legend) ‘It’s what you have always wanted to accomplish. Everyone, when they are young, knows what their Personal Legend is. At that point in their lives, everything is clear and everything is possible. They are not afraid to dream, and to yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives.”

This sounds all well and good. I am certainly a dreamer who wants to realize her Personal Legend. But then he goes on…

“But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible for them to realize their Personal Legend.”

The crystal merchant expresses how he dreams of a dream he knows will never come true but he is okay with it. He wants to go to Mecca but he has never been able to make the trip. “…It’s the thought of Mecca that keeps me alive.” He says. “I’m afraid if my dream is realized, I’ll have no reason to go on living.”

What if I live my whole life without accomplishing my Personal Legend? What if I think I’m headed in the right direction and I’m doing my best at everything I do along the way but I never realize the dream? Or what if I do realize the dream and I don’t feel accomplished? Is dreaming of the dream better than living it, like the crystal merchant says?

This can’t be the right attitude. We can let the “mysterious force” win!

I tend to believe if we are lucky enough to realize one dream, we will find another. No one says we have to stop wanting to accomplish things after having accomplished something else. There is not a limit to a single person’s amount of happiness or success…especially when it comes to one’s Personal Legend.

Our Personal Legends, to me, seem like they would be a process. A sequence of little successes building our ultimate selves.  So does this mean we should aim small in the short term and celebrate the small victories?  Or do we shoot for the stars?

I think the answer is both.

Even if a person dreams of becoming President or winning a Nobel Prize and never does, they were, hopefully, on a path of their choice. They did what they did with passion and enthusiasm, which in turn was following their legend.

“We all need to be aware of our personal calling. What is a personal calling? It is God’s blessing, it is the path that God chose for you here on Earth. Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend.”

The beauty of our calling or legend is that it can change and grow as we do. Whether you believe in God, the universe,  source energy, fate or that just gut feeling inside of you we always have the choice to live as we like.

“It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.”

Do you have a personal calling or legend? Have you realized your dream(s)? I don’t care if you’ve answered yes or no…go on and keeping living it or towards it. Do what makes you come alive!

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No More Excuses

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A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life. – James Allen

Whether it is another person or an inanimate object, we find excuses to explain our choices. I, too often, use the “You only live once” excuse…yes, I said, “YOLO.” I’m not proud of it. Though this may be true, depending on your religious beliefs, it is not a good enough excuse for doing something that gets you off track of your goal.

Somehow we cause ourselves to lose our freedom of choice or action…we enslave ourselves, to ourselves.

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Day 5 of Self-Discipline, take responsibility. Creating systems of success and being prepared to make difficult choices is up to the individual.

As James Allen said, sooner or later we discover that we are the master-gardener of our soul, the director of our life. We are in the driver’s seat of our own life, no one else.

We have to take responsibility for the bad decisions but for the good ones too! We all make mistakes, that’s part of being the amazing, choice making, humans that we are. If we own up to the mistakes it will feel that much better when we fix the problem or make the right decision next time. Ideally, we learn from these experiences!

You can blame the external factor of your choice on, the food item you ate that’s not on your diet, the alcoholic drink you told yourself you weren’t going to have, the workout you missed, the ex-boyfriend you weren’t going to text, or the cigarette you weren’t going smoke. But deep down you know it was you. You are the director, the driver, the captain, the master…YOU are in control. Do not enslave yourself.

No more excuses. Be who you want to be and own up to your flaws because once you understand and forgive yourself, you will be unstoppable.

For true success ask yourself these four questions_ Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?

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Flexing your Willpower Muscles

As humans, we are given a gift that sets us apart from other animals.

Yesterday, I talked about choices and how we should consider our future when making even the smallest decisions.

But we must also acknowledge how amazing it is that we have a choice at all.

Our brains give us the ability to think rationally.

Yes, of course, there are times of danger or threat that we should follow our instincts. But in most situations, we have the privilege to think first.

Can you think of a time when you wish you would have thought something through before acting?

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Day 3 of Self-Discipline – Embracing our humanity while exercising willpower.

Our most common temptations seem to be power, money, sex, food, drugs and the like.

These are all things we come across in life in different fashions. There are obviously times where we’ve earned some of these things and all is well and good. But don’t let your temptations be your quick fix. You may find comfort in satisfying a craving in that moment but how does it help your future?

On the other hand, sometimes these moments aren’t for your comfort but for someone else’s satisfaction. In these moments you have to, again, realize you have been blessed with the ability to choose what is right for you. A choice is something only you can make for yourself.

This enters a whole new realm of self-discipline and self-awareness that we are all too familiar with these days, in the media and possibly in our personal lives.

To those who choose to force decisions upon others, I beg you to fight those primal instincts. You too, believe it or not, have the ability to think rationally. I could rant on here…but just remember that in the long run, if you choose to do wrong, if you succumb to your animal-like urges without a single thought of how this could affect your future or those around you, you are renouncing your humanity.

To those who feel like they have no voice, to those who feel like their self-control was taken from them, and to those who are afraid because they’ve been threatened or because they’re embarrassed, this may feel like a danger moment. This may feel like a fight or flight situation, and that’s okay, but you have also been given the gift of willpower. Deep down, you are an intelligent human being who can choose for themselves what is right and what is wrong in any situation and I hope you are able to find the strength to make your choice to act as necessary.  You are brave and strong. You were born to be the amazing human that you are and you are never, ever alone.

Let us strive to embrace our humanity. And flex those willpower muscles!

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Modus Operandi

How do you operate? How do you decide what’s for lunch? What time to wake up? Or what to say? How do you weigh your options? Do you think about how your decisions will affect your future?

If you keep repeating a wrong decision it starts to become your standard, your M.O.

So what will you choose?

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Day 2 of Self-Discipline is about considering how my choices affect the future me. Here are a few things I would like to try to work on

  1. Email or Texting someone back right away instead of waiting until I am comfortable to answer. I can always say, “I’m working on this, and I will get back to you.” At least they know I read the message.
  2. Not Drinking soda or energy drinks. In the moment this drink may be satisfying or seem as though it is boosting my energy but is it? Or is it psychological?  Could I drink some water, get more sleep or eat a healthier breakfast and avoid this whole situation??
  3. Not hitting snooze. This is an everyday struggle. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I must remind myself that it is not an “alarm clock” I’m waking up to but an “opportunity clock.” The day awaits, I mustn’t waste it away. There is so much I could get done in the morning, but instead I give myself the minimum amount of time to get ready and get to work.
  4. Finishing what I start. I commit to a book, an online course, a fitness program, but then I let myself get distracted. I lose my spot. I’m thrown off course. I have to go back and reread. I lose my progress. This, in turn, wastes time. When I could be moving on to the next, I am stuck among the unfinished.

Don’t let “life get in the way” this is your life! It is what you make of it. Yes, there will be times of sadness, frustration, celebration and more. But this is no excuse to make decisions to set you back. Let your M.O. be something you can be proud of, exhibit habits others look up to you for having. We must stay strong in good times and bad.

Tell those around you what you need from them to keep you going in the direction of your ultimate self. When you’re starting to make changes in your life you are not the only one it affects. But in the end, everyone will benefit!

Live the hard way and make your choices wisely <3

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Becoming Ultimate

megan-hodges-96121We all have dreams.

We have goals, aspirations, ideas…keeping these things in mind, we make a move. We get a job, choose a place to live, decide to have a relationship, buy a new gadget, learn a new skill, make a new contact, join a gym, read a recommended book, the list goes on.

All of the choices lead to experiences that define and shape the people we become. Some experiences better than others, but all of them bring something to the table.

I believe that we all want to become the ultimate versions of ourselves. So we keep making these moves until it feels right and that’s okay! That’s called living.

Think about when you go on a date or to an interview, people say, “just be yourself” or “do your best” or “just be honest” or “you do you… if they don’t like it it’s not meant to be.” In the back of my mind, I think to myself, “damn, I wish my best was better” or “If only I knew a little more about that.”

This is when I turn to my resources. I think it’s natural for a lot of people to feel like a little bit of a perfectionist in situations where they want to impress someone. That’s why we prepare for interviews with practice questions. You get online and study the company, study your position and what is expected of you. Deep down, we all want to be our best selves.

The daily conversations we have often include statements like… I wish I knew how to do that. I would love to learn about that. I’ve always wanted to go there. You’re so lucky, I could never do that. I wish I had more time for that.

These sentences are casual but at the same time we’re putting ourselves down, subconsciously believing we can’t do things because we don’t have the time or the money or the self-discipline.  BUT THAT’S NOT TRUE!

When you’re making your next move, do it with gusto. Move in the direction of your interest(s), or your dream(s). It’s not your mom’s move or your spouse’s move. It’s your move. Get the “I’m just not good enough” thoughts out of here and focus.

You can be your best self. You can learn how to play the guitar. You can learn a new language. You can make time for being crafty. You can write a poem. You can try that recipe. You can start your own business. You can lose weight. You can start a blog. You can get that promotion. You can earn the money you need for your dream trip to Europe. You CAN be downright ultimate. And I hope to provide any resources and inspiration I can find to get you one step closer.

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The world has so much to offer, especially with the great strides in technology and our ability to connect with others from all over the world. You get out there and do what makes you come alive. I dare you!

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