Eliminate​ the Unessential

Needs and wants. Wants and needs. Do we really need anything? We tend to convince ourselves so…

“I need a coffee.”

“I need that car.”

“I need to get out of town.”

Okay, yes, we “need” food and water to survive. But I’m talking about the act of mistaking luxuries for necessities.

We want a lot of things in life. But that doesn’t mean we can’t live with them.

The true test of self-discipline, try living without something you think you need.

Give up coffee for a week and see how you feel. Take a break from TV for a week and see what you notice around you.

Making these little changes in your life can help you first, get out of your comfort zone, but also, you will find out what you are capable of doing and what makes you happy. You will start to see the difference between a want and a need. You can eliminate the unessential.

I think one of the biggest problems we’ve run into in modern times is feeling that we need technology. The words, “I need my phone” are probably uttered way too often.

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Photo by Benjaminrobyn Jespersen on Unsplash

Obviously, in this day in age, it is almost impossible to tell you to give up your phone or the internet for a week. Most of our jobs and daily lives depend on it. This is kind of sad when you think about it… But I will challenge you to take a day. On the weekend or on your day off…let your phone have a day off too.

When we take such a prominent thing out of our life’s equation we might be able to appreciate and enjoy other parts of our lives in a way we haven’t before.

Here we go again, living life the hard way. If we voluntarily put ourselves in situations where we are uncomfortable, we can learn about ourselves and what really makes us happy.

If you find, after a period of time, that life is miserable sans coffee then by all means, enjoy your coffee but at least you know it’s possible to go on without it. You do not need it, you want it and that’s okay.

Is there something in your life that you believe you “can’t live without”? How will you know unless you try?

Try it. I dare you.

 

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Becoming Ultimate

megan-hodges-96121We all have dreams.

We have goals, aspirations, ideas…keeping these things in mind, we make a move. We get a job, choose a place to live, decide to have a relationship, buy a new gadget, learn a new skill, make a new contact, join a gym, read a recommended book, the list goes on.

All of the choices lead to experiences that define and shape the people we become. Some experiences better than others, but all of them bring something to the table.

I believe that we all want to become the ultimate versions of ourselves. So we keep making these moves until it feels right and that’s okay! That’s called living.

Think about when you go on a date or to an interview, people say, “just be yourself” or “do your best” or “just be honest” or “you do you… if they don’t like it it’s not meant to be.” In the back of my mind, I think to myself, “damn, I wish my best was better” or “If only I knew a little more about that.”

This is when I turn to my resources. I think it’s natural for a lot of people to feel like a little bit of a perfectionist in situations where they want to impress someone. That’s why we prepare for interviews with practice questions. You get online and study the company, study your position and what is expected of you. Deep down, we all want to be our best selves.

The daily conversations we have often include statements like… I wish I knew how to do that. I would love to learn about that. I’ve always wanted to go there. You’re so lucky, I could never do that. I wish I had more time for that.

These sentences are casual but at the same time we’re putting ourselves down, subconsciously believing we can’t do things because we don’t have the time or the money or the self-discipline.  BUT THAT’S NOT TRUE!

When you’re making your next move, do it with gusto. Move in the direction of your interest(s), or your dream(s). It’s not your mom’s move or your spouse’s move. It’s your move. Get the “I’m just not good enough” thoughts out of here and focus.

You can be your best self. You can learn how to play the guitar. You can learn a new language. You can make time for being crafty. You can write a poem. You can try that recipe. You can start your own business. You can lose weight. You can start a blog. You can get that promotion. You can earn the money you need for your dream trip to Europe. You CAN be downright ultimate. And I hope to provide any resources and inspiration I can find to get you one step closer.

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The world has so much to offer, especially with the great strides in technology and our ability to connect with others from all over the world. You get out there and do what makes you come alive. I dare you!

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40 Days, 40 Nights…It's Just the Beginning

IMG_0842I’m back! It’s been too long since I’ve written, what better time of year to start back up again, Lent!
Yesterday was Ash Wednesday, the season of Lent begins. I went to Holy Name Cathedral, in downtown Chicago, for the distribution of the ashes, where the thumb of the Priest drew the sign of the cross upon my forehead. I look forward to this time of repentance and continuing to better myself as a human of this wonderful world.
In the past, this is where I give up something like chocolate or soda, but I’m going to try something different this year. I want to become a better version of myself in four main aspects of my life; Physical, Mental, Social and Spiritual. I am dedicating these 40 days and 40 nights to taking care of my body, expanding my knowledge and my mind, reaching out to people I want to get to know as well as those that I don’t want to lose or forget, and finally, to be more in touch with my Catholic beliefs and giving back to the community.
This is clearly a lot to cover in 40 days, it is the beginning of a life philosophy I hope to continue beyond Lent. I am daring myself to follow through as William H. Danforth has dared me in his book “I Dare You!” to be bigger than I am.
He said, “You have a four-fold life to live: a body, a brain, a heart and a soul…these are your living tools. To use and develop them is not a task…It is a golden opportunity.”
So I plan to take this golden opportunity, and along with it I will blog! Let the adventure of self evaluation and discovery begin.

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