It’s Prime Time

Today we not only celebrate the spending of all of our money on fabulous deals on Amazon Prime. But today I realized I just might be beginning the prime of my life! And I’m ready to start living like I mean it.

Happy Prime day!

In the past year I think I have felt close to every emotion there is. I have experienced love and laughter, loneliness and loss. I have felt happy and silly, and sad and sorry. I felt like I couldn’t breathe… and then I had never breathed easier. My heart was confused… and then it was fuller than ever.

Life has taken me on quite the ride this year and along the way I have found that I have the love of my life by my side, the most caring and supportive parents, a brother whom I’ll always look up to, many other caring family members, best friends that love unconditionally, two wonderfully smart children that I will love and protect as my own and one sweet baby boy on the way.

My job isn’t perfect, our apartment is small, my pregnancy aches and pains are unpredictable but the people that surround me keep me going. They always encourage me to follow my dreams and do what makes me happy. I may be living a life I didn’t quite expect but I have learned so much and have loved finding my new path.

This is the beginning of the prime of my life. I am old enough to know who I am and who I am not and young enough to know I still have a chance to make all of my dreams come alive.

I wasn’t sure when or if I would become a mother and I feel truly blessed to find it was meant to be! As I embark on this crazy journey of motherhood and wife-hood, I only wish to keep learning and growing as a person, a mother, a wife, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a sound editor, a manager, a reader, a writer, and more. And hence! A blog post!

This blog has always been meant to be a part of my everyday. More than a hobby. Time to be ultimate…time to be prime!

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18 Quotes About Change

Sometimes we make a change, sometimes change is forced upon us. I’ve learned it is important to commit to the changes I want and adapt to the changes I can’t control. I’ve curated a small collection of quotes from some exceptional humans about change that have inspired me.

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It’s never too late to change your life for the better. You don’t have to take huge steps to change your life. Making even the smallest changes to your daily routine can make a big difference to your life.
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.
― Carol Burnett

Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.
― Stephen Hawking

Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.
― Chuck Palahniuk

The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.
― Amelia Earhart

People change and forget to tell each other.
― Lillian Hellman

Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.
― Stephen Covey

You change the world by being yourself.
― Yoko Ono

The good and bad things are what form us as people… change makes us grow.
― Kate Winslet

Enjoying success requires the ability to adapt. Only by being open to change will you have a true opportunity to get the most from your talent.
― Nolan Ryan

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Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody.
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
― Albert Einstein

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
― Rumi

Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.
― Maya Angelou

Don’t be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen. Otherwise it will be too easy for you to look with blame… at your past, which naturally has a share with everything that now meets you.
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

Listen. Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember.
― Barbara Kingsolver, The Poisonwood Bible

Tomorrow you promise yourself will be different, yet tomorrow is too often a repetition of today.
― James T. McCay

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.
― Alan W. Watts

Be the change. Make the change. Embrace the change.

It’s time to join the dance!

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Realizing Our Personal Legends

The Soul of the World is nourished by people’s happiness. And also by unhappiness, envy, and jealousy. To realize one’s Personal Legend is a person’s only real obligation. All things are one.

— Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

I am currently reading The Alchemist by Pablo Coelho.

While reading, I was struck by a particular thought. Coelho talks about realizing your Personal Legend.

“… (Personal Legend) ‘It’s what you have always wanted to accomplish. Everyone, when they are young, knows what their Personal Legend is. At that point in their lives, everything is clear and everything is possible. They are not afraid to dream, and to yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives.”

This sounds all well and good. I am certainly a dreamer who wants to realize her Personal Legend. But then he goes on…

“But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible for them to realize their Personal Legend.”

The crystal merchant expresses how he dreams of a dream he knows will never come true but he is okay with it. He wants to go to Mecca but he has never been able to make the trip. “…It’s the thought of Mecca that keeps me alive.” He says. “I’m afraid if my dream is realized, I’ll have no reason to go on living.”

What if I live my whole life without accomplishing my Personal Legend? What if I think I’m headed in the right direction and I’m doing my best at everything I do along the way but I never realize the dream? Or what if I do realize the dream and I don’t feel accomplished? Is dreaming of the dream better than living it, like the crystal merchant says?

This can’t be the right attitude. We can let the “mysterious force” win!

I tend to believe if we are lucky enough to realize one dream, we will find another. No one says we have to stop wanting to accomplish things after having accomplished something else. There is not a limit to a single person’s amount of happiness or success…especially when it comes to one’s Personal Legend.

Our Personal Legends, to me, seem like they would be a process. A sequence of little successes building our ultimate selves.  So does this mean we should aim small in the short term and celebrate the small victories?  Or do we shoot for the stars?

I think the answer is both.

Even if a person dreams of becoming President or winning a Nobel Prize and never does, they were, hopefully, on a path of their choice. They did what they did with passion and enthusiasm, which in turn was following their legend.

“We all need to be aware of our personal calling. What is a personal calling? It is God’s blessing, it is the path that God chose for you here on Earth. Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend.”

The beauty of our calling or legend is that it can change and grow as we do. Whether you believe in God, the universe,  source energy, fate or that just gut feeling inside of you we always have the choice to live as we like.

“It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.”

Do you have a personal calling or legend? Have you realized your dream(s)? I don’t care if you’ve answered yes or no…go on and keeping living it or towards it. Do what makes you come alive!

A little inspiring tune for you:

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Eliminate​ the Unessential

Needs and wants. Wants and needs. Do we really need anything? We tend to convince ourselves so…

“I need a coffee.”

“I need that car.”

“I need to get out of town.”

Okay, yes, we “need” food and water to survive. But I’m talking about the act of mistaking luxuries for necessities.

We want a lot of things in life. But that doesn’t mean we can’t live with them.

The true test of self-discipline, try living without something you think you need.

Give up coffee for a week and see how you feel. Take a break from TV for a week and see what you notice around you.

Making these little changes in your life can help you first, get out of your comfort zone, but also, you will find out what you are capable of doing and what makes you happy. You will start to see the difference between a want and a need. You can eliminate the unessential.

I think one of the biggest problems we’ve run into in modern times is feeling that we need technology. The words, “I need my phone” are probably uttered way too often.

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Obviously, in this day in age, it is almost impossible to tell you to give up your phone or the internet for a week. Most of our jobs and daily lives depend on it. This is kind of sad when you think about it… But I will challenge you to take a day. On the weekend or on your day off…let your phone have a day off too.

When we take such a prominent thing out of our life’s equation we might be able to appreciate and enjoy other parts of our lives in a way we haven’t before.

Here we go again, living life the hard way. If we voluntarily put ourselves in situations where we are uncomfortable, we can learn about ourselves and what really makes us happy.

If you find, after a period of time, that life is miserable sans coffee then by all means, enjoy your coffee but at least you know it’s possible to go on without it. You do not need it, you want it and that’s okay.

Is there something in your life that you believe you “can’t live without”? How will you know unless you try?

Try it. I dare you.

 

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Preparedness and Avoidance

More often than not, preparing or planning for something will make it more successful.

Spontaneity is a beautiful thing but it is impossible to live every moment without some premeditation.

Dreams, goals, ambitions, objectives, and desires can only become reality if we prepare. A single person can only have so much luck or fortune of being in the “right place at the right time.”

Sometimes we have to bring ourselves to those places on purpose. We should introduce ourselves to people who can lead and mentor us. We have to set aside time to research and learn about our dreams and goals to be able to achieve them.

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Day 4 of Self-Discipline is about creating your systems. Willpower is not about sitting in front of your temptations so that you can deny them. It’s about planning ahead to avoid the temptations in the first place.

Related reads: 18 Quotes About Being Prepared

Examples:

1. If you want to follow a strict diet, you would only buy food that is included in the diet. In my family home we always said, “If we don’t buy it, we won’t eat it!” And honestly, you’ll probably save money too. This takes a little self-control at the grocery store but once you leave that store you’ll feel great. One small victory for your diet!

2. Let’s say you get too distracted by Netflix, there’s been too much binge watching going on…we’ve all been there. This one is easy… CANCEL YOUR SUBSCRIPTION. Avoid the temptation by removing it from the equation. And again, you save a little money. You can always start up the subscription again. Fun fact: Netflix will save your watchlist for a certain amount of time for these kinds of situations. It could be a good way to get you back on track. Once you’ve completed a project or feel like you have extra time for leisure…Netflix can be your reward!

3. I mentioned my hitting the snooze button problem in my post, Modus Operandi. How can I create a system to help break this habit? Well, first I’m going to try to set up my alarm on the opposite side of the room. This prompts me to physically get up to turn off the alarm. Next, I will write myself a note. Perhaps on large paper right in front of my face so that when I wake up it’s the first thing I see. It will say something like, “Hello Gorgeous!” or “Let’s be awesome today!” I will report back my results.

The point here is, we must build our self-discipline. We should create systems of success for our short-term and long-term goals not just rely on our ability to say no. We can use preparedness, avoidance, and rewards instead.

Those “just say no” moments will still arise, but hopefully in creating our own systems, and roadblocks if you will, our self-discipline will be ready for the unplanned moments.

“He who is best prepared can best serve his moment of inspiration.”

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